Comments on: How I Stopped Being an Angry Homeschool Mom

By: Madison

Madison

This is exactly what I needed. A month into our homeschooling adventure and I have found myself getting angry almost everyday and have felt so horrible about it. It has crushed me almost everyday. I felt so alone, like I am the only homeschool mom that is this way. Like I was failing them. You’re right when you say you see other homeschool parents doing so “perfectly” and their 13 year olds in college courses. I’m also on constant alert that others are waiting for me to fail too. It has caused major exhaustion. We also have a 1 year old (6&8 also) so I having an even more difficult time juggling nap times and nursing and and and and. But this is what I needed. Felt near tears reading it actually. Thank you.

By: Michele L

Michele L

Thank you for a great uplift to my day! I’ve been homeschooling our four children since 2017. I’m on our last one, she’s in 7th grade. My oldest is in college and our two highschoolers wanted to go in to our school district high school. I felt guilty about that for a long time thinking it was my fault. I’ve made peace with myself and realized each child is unique in their needs and wants. This school year I vowed to keep the days lighthearted and positive. I use some of the techniques you listed when I’m feeling insecure about our homeschooling adventure. But, truly, the fact that we are willing to homeschool our children means we have achieved success. We as parents are the primary teachers of our children. Love will get us through any tough math, reading, or any lesson. The children will learn, we don’t have to be worried about that.
God bless you all!

By: Lauren Schmitz

Lauren Schmitz

In reply to Mary.

Mary, thank you for sharing and for everything you’re doing for your grandchild. I do get many comments telling me that people homeschool who are not mothers. Unfortunately, I can only speak to my own experience, which is what this blog is for. I encourage you to document your own successes and share them with the homeschool community. I know many people would be blessed.

By: Mary

Mary

I wish someone would speak on a grandparent who had the child more than the parent and is homeschooling said child. A special needs child at that. It not just mom’s homeschooling. This MiMi stepped up when no one else would.

My Granddaughter will be 7 in December, and believe it or not their parents have just started to have her assessed including speech therapy. But here I stand pulling resources, literally homeschooling 5 days a week, while her 42 year old dad and 32 year old mom are clueless except for themselves.

By: Lauren Schmitz

Lauren Schmitz

In reply to J.

Thank you so much for this comment and for normalizing the feelings that so many of us have. I can confidently tell you that it will get better. Partially because your kids will mature, but also because you will learn how to balance them better.

By: J

I definitely needed that. I try to communicate with my kiddos when I’m feeling the build up to what we call “dragon mom” aka the yelling slamming doors, over frustrated/overstimulated mom who cuts school short and sends them to their rooms or outside for a long while.. It takes me more than 10min to calm down and it’s frustrating when my kids still won’t leave me alone… They will come out of their rooms and come to me over little things and the dragon mom builds up all over again. I have started adjusting the school schedule to start later in the morning and trying not to have so much worksheets to catch up on. My kiddos argue, fight (hit shove) roll eyes. We are heavily working on behavior and manners. My oldest likes to see the younger get in trouble and vise versa. Some days they get on just wonderfully and others it’s lilo and Stitch “she’s touching me!, no I’m not! it’s free air”. Than you for the helpful suggestions. I will definitely give these a try.

By: Sue

Sue

These seem really practical. I look forward to putting them into practice.

By: Anna

Anna

Fantastically true, honest and just what I needed to hear today! Thank you.

By: Ashley

Ashley

I too really needed to read this today. I’m homeschooling my son and have been feeling like I may have made the wrong choice, because I get so frustrated when I feel like he’s not meeting his potential or trying his hardest. I then get angry and he gets upset and I can tell he feels bad and wants to shut down, then I feel bad for being too hard on him. I’ve prayed for God to help me find patience, and to guide me to be the example I wish to be. I can see the way I get frustrated manifesting in the way my son expresses his feelings and I tell him no tantrums. I see now, that’s exactly what I’ve been doing myself! Thank you for taking the time to write this so other homeschool mamas can come across this on a hard day!

By: Lauren

Lauren

In reply to Kelli.

Kelli, thank you for sharing! It sounds like you could teach your own anger management class. Your son and your homeschool will benefit so much from all that hard work! 🙂